April 11, 2005

Lesbians in Common

I've written previously how Wendy and I just don't know that many other lesbians here in our corner of suburbia. I've mentioned the one lesbian couple with whom we actually are sort of friends. But we are not particularly close to them. Exchanges like this sum up why:

Me: Do y'all read much?
She: No, not much.
Me: *silent*

Me: We are really looking forward to the start of baseball season.
She: We just don't do sports.
Me: *silent*

But there are some topics we can discuss:

Me: Last week's episode of The L-Word was pretty hot.
She: We are so glad Dana is going to hook up with Alice! But what is up with Alice's hair?!
Me: I think they all have bad hair, but I agree Dana and Alice make a cute couple! Dana has a smokin' body!"

While I value the limited relationship we have with this couple, I'd like to try having lesbian friends who have things in common with us besides just being gay.

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16 comments:

Mel said...

Yeah, I get that, and I'm raging heterosexual. ;)

semisane said...

Dang, It's too bad my wife and I live nowhere near you, since we are both voracious readers and addicted baseball nuts! Out in the rural boonies, we miss having ANY lesbian couples in our lives. But with MLB Extra Innings, who has time?

weese said...

cards? do you like to play cards?
we also like football and basketball.
stop in!

Udge said...

Yeah, what Mel said.

Jennifer said...

Ditto, Mel.

It's just hard, the friend thing. And I'm not saying this to ruin your day or anything, but the *older* I get, the harder it is to accomodate people just because. Sad, I know. :-(

Elizabeth said...

Well...looks like you at least have some people you can visit.

But you can't come to Texas. Oh no. Not you, Ms. The-Hill-Country-Would-Be-Great-Except-It's-In-Texas Susie Sunshine.

Well la-dee-dah. You know, those of us who are NOT gun-totin', bigoted, religious freaky, W likin', big hair wearin', gay bashin', Tom Delay ass kissin', shit kickers can't be blamed for the fact that some of those kind live here and make all the rules. It's not our fault.

WordsRock said...

Now now, Elizabeth! Wendy is from Texas and her peeps are still there, not far from where you live, so we actually do visit your lovely state. (tee hee, I just said "peeps")

weese, thanks for the invite. Don't be shocked when Wendy wins all your money playing cards. She's a shark!

Semi, MLB Extra Innings rocks! But at least we've got the city close by and get out to a game now and again.

As for all you raging heterosexuals, well... y'all do make awesome friends. :)

CY said...

I feel your pain...

I will fight to the death for the rights of my fellow queers, but that doesn't mean I want to hang out with all of them. Once you've told the coming-out stories and the silence falls, then what?

Bent Fabric said...

Forget Alice's hair. What's up with Shane and Jenny's hair?

My g/f and I had the same problem when we moved to Florida. It took us a little more than two years to find a couple with shared interests. The right couple will come along when you least expect it.

Btw, I dig your blog.

elswhere said...

Yeah. Most of my friends these days are other parents of young kids. Mostly (though not all) straight. The older I get, the more I feel like as long as someone's not homophobic, there are way more important things to have in common. Though it is nice to have *some* lesbian friends...

Well, you can always come visit here! We are way not into sports, but I'm sure we would fill in the gaps with book talk. And Mel's nearby!

Katie (WannaBeMom) said...

We live in a little lesbian Mecca and still have no good lesbian friends. Well, maybe the one couple we're going on vacation with, but they live an hour away from us. Mostly we are friends with straight people too. Although, I really like the idea of lesbian friends, kinda like Dykes to Watch Out For. Where is that community?? I just feel like Partner and I are neither too femmey, dykey, or sporty to fit in sometimes... And we certainly are not as cool as L-Word lesbians... Oh well, I'm pretty happy with our life and friends anyway. I think your final sentence is a great summary of how we feel over here chez WannaBe.

semisane said...

We're not so far out that we can't see our beloved Astros at Busch to beat up the redbirds. Maybe there will be lesbians there!

Eyes said...

As a hetero couple, it's not easy for us to find things in common with other couples. It's quite hard, actually, so I can understand how much more difficult it would be for you two. Unless of course, I am that unusual which could be the case LOL...

Jalaine said...

It always does surprise me that my wife and I are friendly but not friends with the other lesbian couples in our suburban town. Part of the reason is that it's so much easier to connect with other couples--straight or gay--if they have kids in the same age range. I imagine this will change as our children (currently 6 and 3) get older.

After last season, everyone is a Red Sox fan around here, but I haven't come across too many moms at the preschool drop-off who want to talk about "The L Word" (smile).

frogstar said...

ok, well i know nothing about baseball and the L Word hasn't been released in new zealand yet... but i'd be more than happy to talk books with you if you're ever in the neighbourhood :-)

frogstar said...

ok, well i know nothing about baseball and the L Word hasn't been released in new zealand yet... but i'd be more than happy to talk books with you if you're ever in the neighbourhood :-)